Love and Marriage

I have been married almost 31 years. I love my husband. I even like him. But if anyone ever said it is easy, well, he/she hasn't been married much.

It seems that some people think wedding vows should give you esp. I quite often haven't even made up my mind on something at any given time, let alone being able to know what my dear husband might think.

Case in point: My co-worker offered us tickets for the WSU basketball game tonight. I thought it would be fun to go, but then, I am the sports fan in the family. I asked my dear husband and he gave me one of his very lukewarm "I guess" answers. Then came the new wrinkle: my sister-in-law who had a broken hip repaired on Wednesday is not doing so well so we talked about going to see her tomorrow. Thinking that a basketball game tonight would be a nuisance, especially for one who doesn't really like basketball, I told my co-worker thanks but maybe some other time. Now it seems that I misjudged and the spouse is upset that we are not going to the game!?! Do I guess wrong or would any decision be wrong? I'll probably never know.

They say communication is the most important thing in a marriage but men are notoriously reluctant to "talk". I think it is a conspiracy. As long as they don't tell us what they are thinking, we can keep making decisions that are contrary to what they wanted.

And I would have enjoyed that bb game too.